Notetaker: Amanda C.
You bring up something, it’s ignored, a guy brings it up, it gets done. HELP. This happens both in person and over email.
How do you deal with idea stealing?
- Follow up with an email and cover the idea you talked about. Then you have a written record and backup. You can then refer to that email, or resend it if the person tries to take credit, or change something they agreed on.
- Ask for more experience presenting your work or talking to people, then you have your name & face attached to your ideas
Women tend to say I feel which can soften our words, and make it look like your statement is just your opinion, not informed professional fact.
Figure out what kind of power structure youÂre working in (e.g. old boys club)
Ask questions of person youÂre talking with to see if they’ve understood.
Resource: Hemingway, writing checker that looks at readability, passive voice, word choice, etc. www.hemingwayapp.com
Balancing not wanting to be too pushy or naggy, but still being direct.
People perceive emergencies and priorities differently. Be clear about how you feel about an issue, and ask about their time.
Use topic sentences, clarity in your need.
Figure out when your devs or engineers have breaks. if you interrupt them when their head is in code or formulas, it won’t go well.
Listen to your own speech patterns; women tend to end sentences on an up note, which makes your statements kind of sound like questions.
Video on Lean In site about understanding team dynamics and how people communicate http://leanin.org/education/team-dynamics/
Meetings where people arenÂt paying attention or are distracted by email, devices, etc
- Ask that devices go away
- See when a good time would be to get their undivided attention
- Cut a meeting short by asking for attention for 15 minutes, then setting everyone free early to handle what they’re dealing with
- Have standing meetings forces people to get to the point
Start of a meeting, everyone gives a number 1-5 about how theyÂre feeling, so you can easily read the room and know how people are doing, outside of the project, stress-wise.